Newsletter - December 8 2025
A Kinder Holiday Season
Tips from our Kitchen Tables to Yours
Kitchen Table Conversations
Episode 95 - The Holiday Season
Some thought provoking ideas around ensuring the holidays are the best they can be for you and your circle. This may mean re-evaluating traditions and creating new ones, and also creating some compassionate boundaries.
Hello everyone,
The holidays can be magical—but they can also be overwhelming, especially for those living with or supporting individuals impacted by FASD, ADHD, trauma, or other complex neurodevelopmental conditions. This season, let’s centre compassion, clarity, and connection—and let go of unrealistic expectations.
Whether you're parenting, caregiving, or navigating your own big feelings, this here are some grounding truths and gentle reminders to help you protect what matters most. .
#1 These Are Your Holidays. It’s Ok to Do Them Your Way
There’s no one-size-fits-all version of joy. You don’t need to attend every event or follow every tradition. Take a breath. Choose what’s manageable. Make space for calm, rest, and sensory-friendly routines.
#2 Boundaries Are a Gift
Healthy boundaries help us avoid burnout. That might mean limiting visits, skipping large gatherings, or shortening events. Saying “this is what I can do” is not selfish—it’s wise. Be careful not to avoid too much however, because that can feel isolating. Set the visits up for success as much as possible with a good travel plan, structure within the visits, and the option to skip out early before things become overwhelming.
#3 Lead with Compassion, Not Explanation
You don’t owe anyone a full explanation about your child’s behaviour or your boundaries. A simple “noise is overwhelming for us” or “transitions are tricky” can help others show up with understanding.
[Tip: Share our “Dear Family & Friends” page ]
#4 Rethink Traditions
Traditions should serve your family’s well being—not the other way around. Adapt them. You might have to skip some. Create new ones that reflect your family’s strengths and rhythm.
#5 Normalize Non-Alcoholic Celebrations
Let’s stop making people explain why they’re not drinking. Provide alcohol-free options. Be mindful. You never know who’s in recovery, pregnant, or simply choosing differently. Inclusion is prevention.
A Gentle Reminder About Alcohol and Pregnancy .
As you gather with loved ones, remember:
There is no known safe amount, type, or time to drink alcohol during pregnancy.
FASD is common, invisible, and misunderstood. Many families go years without clarity or access to assessment—yet the impact on learning, memory, and behaviour is real. And it’s not just moms—paternal alcohol use at conception matters too.
This isn’t about shame. It’s about changing the conversation. Prevention starts at the kitchen table, with messages that are honest, clear, and compassionate.
Watch our PSA>> and our video that questions alcohol producers why they are not marketing to support alcohol free and healthy pregnancies?
Learn more about FASD and prevention here>>
For Parents and Caregivers
If you're feeling tired, overwhelmed, or isolated, please know:
You don’t have to feel alone. We know that many of you feel that way for good reason. We hope you can reach out for support and help if needed.
Your needs matter and your boundaries are valid.
Your version of the holidays is enough.
Take what works. Leave what doesn’t. Pause, reflect, and give yourself permission to rewrite the season with love and clarity.
A Final Thought
“Perfection isn’t the goal. Sometimes we have to re-evaluate the ‘rules’ we have in our head about what the holidays are supposed to look like. The goal is connection, safety, and moments of joy that feel true to your family.”
Thank you for all you do and for being part of this community. Wishing you peace, presence, and gentleness as we prepare for and during this holiday season—and nothing but the best for 2026.
Warmly,
Angela